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February 13th, 2014 at 03:42 pm

I turned 35 last week, and it's throwing me for a loop. Ordinarily I love birthdays, but this one just felt odd. I already felt like something - maybe several things - really needed to change once 2014 turned over. Shouldn't 35-year-olds have it together?

So I decided a few things:

- This year will be make-it or break-it with SO.

- I need a career. Like an actual, bonafide career. I love doing research. I'm a great administrative worker. I have a bunch of creative talents. I'm friendly and kind, but dealing with a constant stream of people drains me. I'd love to do something that specifically helps women. I need to make enough money to support myself and save for retirement. I'm not sure how to mash all of those things together yet.

- I need to start doing more out in the world. Volunteering somewhere, taking a class, maybe joining an orchestra again, finally attending a vegan meetup group - something (or many things). I need to make more plans with the friends I've got, too.

I've got 47 levels of stress and am working on centering myself to deal with it all. I've started doing five minutes of yoga every morning while my tea brews. I'm learning about chakras. I imagine the stress leaving the top of my head and my stomach calming whenever things feel out of control. I think it's helping.

And now for my bizarre story of the day:

My dental hygienist (whom I adore and have been seeing for 10+ years) gave me a lengthy lecture today on how my eggs are getting old and I had better freeze them before I turn 38. I gently told her several times that I'm not sure I want kids, but she persisted. I have good genes, blue eyes, a good figure, and that would all go to waste, she said. Then she suggested that I freeze half my eggs and donate the other half to her. I could be the child's godmother and take the child should she die soon. *CUE CRICKETS* She revealed that she had just paid $20,000 for an egg donor. I'm not sure why she would want my old eggs, in that case...

8 Responses to “35”

  1. ThriftoRama Says:

    Um, yeah. That is an awkward conversation, and with her hands in your mouth it's not like you can just walk away!

  2. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    That is too weird!

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    Wow! That is a bizarre story, clearly she wasn't censoring herself at all. Happy Belated Birthday.

  4. ceejay74 Says:

    Some birthdays hit harder than others! There's a lot of pressure in this country to define yourself, especially by your career. I think if you don't find one thing that you consider a career, it doesn't make you less of a wholly formed person.

    You should come to the Ordinary Savers group! Smile

  5. Looking Forward Says:

    Wow, your hygienist feels really comfortable with you!
    I suppose you know what the front and center stress in her life is now. And I guess that is a good point - we are all *dealing* with something in our life.
    Good luck with everything and Happy Birthday too! Smile

  6. frugaltexan75 Says:

    Happy birthday!

    That definitely is an ... awkward convo to have while having your teeth worked on. Wow.

    I totally understand your thoughts/goals. When I was working at the oil and gas company, and was about 32 (I think), I started really feeling like my life was going nowhere and that my job wasn't doing anything really for anyone. That's when I found a no-kill animal shelter about 20 minutes from me. I volunteered there many weekend afternoons walking dogs and playing with cats.

  7. PatientSaver Says:

    Oh, wow, Kashi's back! Hang around here some! I hope you find your sense of direction. It's sometimes an elusive thing.

  8. kashi Says:

    Thanks for all of the well-wishes!

    Yes, ceejay, I should come to your group! And you're right, of course. I can somehow manage to both reject and embrace the need for a solid career path. Societal pressure be damned, but then I put it on myself.

    FT75, yes, I need to get back into volunteering at an animal shelter!

    PatientSaver, I need a compass!

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